How to be an anchor in the storm

One of the reasons a battered woman is finally able to leave an abusive relationship is because she has someone who acts as her anchor in the storm. “For a battered woman, having an anchor can mean the difference between helplessness and empowerment to work toward a solution,” says Susan Brewster, author of “To be an Anchor in the Storm.” She compares the role of friends and relatives of battered women to the anchor of […]

What is a misogynist?

The word “misogynist” literally means hatred of women. Although they claim to love their wives, the actions of a misogynist indicate just the opposite. They may appear kind and charming at church or the office, but they lead a double life at home, acting kind and loving part of the time and disrespectful and abusive the rest of the time. The woman who lives with a misogynist is confused by the double messages he sends, […]

A Teenager’s Perspective

A Teenager’s Perspective on Living in an Abusive Home “All children deserve a father they aren’t afraid of. All women deserve a partner they can trust. All abusive men deserve a chance to break the cycle of abuse they learned from their fathers.” This is the dream of most families who are struggling with dysfunctional and abusive relationships. I agree with this dream. I grew up in a home where my father was abusive. If […]


I could hardly recognize myself. I was no longer the quiet, easy-going girl that very seldom got angry. In my reaction to my husband’s tirades and verbal abuse, I began having unkind thoughts (that’s putting it mildly!) and often responded with a sharp edge to my voice. It felt like my insides were boiling and any day this volcano of bitterness would erupt to scald whomever stood in my path. When my intuitive co-workers confronted me and […]