The word “misogynist” literally means hatred of women. Although they claim to love their wives, the actions of a misogynist indicate just the opposite. They may appear kind and charming at church or the office, but they lead a double life at home, acting kind and loving part of the time and disrespectful and abusive the rest of the time.
The woman who lives with a misogynist is confused by the double messages he sends, and is often not believed by friends and pastors when she describes what really goes on at home.
As she begins to doubt her own perceptions, she blames herself for the problems and works even harder to please the abuser and gain his approval.
However, this is a game that can never be won. Once she changes a certain behavior to please him, he will find something else to target. Nothing she does pleases him, and she begins to doubt her ability to function as a wife and mother. Usually it is when she begins to doubt her own sanity that she reaches out for help to her pastor or a therapist. –BB
Excerpt from article “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde” published by Trevco Designs, 1998